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ASPIRE MATCH MAKING
Connecting Hearts for Paradise
Does having a successful marriage mean finding the right person or does it mean being the right person?
Welcome to a marital matchmaking service that is designed to create platonic shifts mentally and spiritually. A program that inspires to build principled, long standing marriages. This is an initiative that strives to bring together authentic and sincere believers who possess an unquestionable niyyah (resolve) to complete half of their faith by embarking on their journey of matrimony.
With much `spoken about` and trusted service our team has achieved thus far, with the permission of Allah, brought together several successful couples throughout South Africa. The release of this new program excitingly includes all the learnings, experiences and feedback received after 2 years of formally operating in this spouse `seeking` formulation space.
This improved version of preparing and rendering eager participants for marriage pursues to incorporate the most fundamental principles for seeking a lifelong companion, a thorough commitment screening system in order to filter in prime candidates, an assessment tool that configures governing personality styles, group work and bonds that develop dynamic collaborative insights, and lastly, premarital discourse to simulate numerous relationship aspects.
Within a span of 3 months, our intent is to achieve our desired outcome together by having found the right person for you and, more importantly, becoming the right person. Ultimately and exclusively chiseling your path to an imperfectly perfect marriage and in-so-doing connecting your heart mutually with someone for paradise.
PLEASE NOTE:
- There is no guarantee of making it through each phase.
- Meeting of potential spouses are only done in Step Four.
- Be prepared to experience more than just a conveyor belt with numerous options to choose from. Be prepared to experience the person who is choosing.
- Expect to do a little more than just meet new people, have a go at meeting yourself.
- Maybe you have to meet yourself before your next potential spouse.
- Get ready for something a bit more than just matchmaking; try a holistic approach to matchmaking.
HOW THE PROCESS WORKS:
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STEP ONE:
The application and screening process.
Here you will be given a list of questions in order to identify and measure your/their current state of intent in as far as this phase of marriage is concerned. Step one forms an integral part and is the deciding section on whether to onboard a participant or not. All candidates will be given a full direction whether successful or unsuccessful.
- Unsuccessful candidates will be given direction as what to work on for the next intake. This will be either in a live or electronic format, dependent on the feedback nature.
- Successful candidates will be contacted by the team and will proceed to step two.
- R100 is payable per application.
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STEP TWO:
The live interview and screening process.
You/candidate will be called to come in for a live interview in person or virtually. The purpose of this meeting is to personally allow the team and candidate to connect and gauge the candidate`s vision on an intimate and comprehensive level. Revising each candidate’s responses and ensuring no discrepancies in answers given. This step also allows clarity and mutual agreement to the system formulated. Meetings will be arranged to interview individual candidates at a time. 15 to 20 minutes in order to receive of good overall sense and to match person to application.
- At this point it is unlikely that candidates would be withdrawn from the program. However in the event that there were any inconsistencies found, the necessary precautions would take place.
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STEP THREE:
Group meeting and `The Right Person` workshop.
You/ The candidate will enter the next phase of the system. Here, the candidate is introduced to their men/women group. This step emphasizes and focuses on creating an effective mastermind circle. This is a group of like-minded individuals who shares similar passions- challenge ideas, experiences and situations. Our mastermind group would facilitate each member to share and receive perspectives to generate opportunity for problem solving, brainstorm ideas and personal development. Many successful people will credit the hive mind they’ve accessed through mastermind groups (Colin Scotland, 2024). Learning spaces are amplified when conducted as a collective, creating a mastermind is crucial in this marital journey. Workshop duration will be in the range of 3 to 4 hours.
“No two minds ever come together without creating a third, invisible, intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind (the master mind).”
- Finalize whether groups will be between 7 to 12 or 13 to 25 participants.
- Topics: BEING the right person can be tougher. Are you easy to live with, generous, flexible, and willing to put your beloved’s needs before your own? Above all, are both of you mature?
- Showcase personal details and interest to each candidate.
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STEP FOUR:
The meeting and highly anticipated day.
You/The candidates now ready’s themselves for a 10 to 15 minute one on one conversation with potential life companions.
Meetings for 10 to 15 minutes.
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STEP FIVE:
One on one Feedback to the team.
Individual sessions with the team recollecting on your experience from the dating day.
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STEP SIX:
The Second meeting day.
Confirming your certainties.
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STEP SEVEN:
The mahrams involvement.
Contact numbers exchanged.
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STEP EIGHT:
Second group workshop.
Topics:
Here’s the uncomfortable truth. If you’re reacting to the so-called difficult person’s behaviour, there’s a good chance you’re being difficult yourself. (Flora Devlin)
Here are some signs that you might be being difficult yourself:
- You find yourself getting wound up and frustrated when interacting with this person
- You can think of a 1000 things they’ve done wrong, but 0 for yourself
- You act and behave differently with this person, than you do with others
- You’ve found yourself being defensive or fixed in your approach with them.
- You start to work around this person and try to get things done without their input
- They’ve asked for information & you’ve resisted because you don’t understand why they need it
https://floradevlin.substack.com/p/what-if-youre-the-difficult-person